A bridal retinue yey? or ney?

A  bridal retinue yey? or ney?

Today, it is merely a trend to follow. Obviously now we don't hear any stories about brides being kidnapped.

Some people have friends and family who would love to be a part of the wedding planning. They might even help the couple to get things done, in cases like these people tend to give them those friends and family the tile of the 'bridesmaid' / 'maid of honor' / 'best man' to honor their help.

Some other people tend to have a retinue with them on their big day to make things easier for them, as an example the bridesmaids would help the bride to carry the veil, to retouch make up and even to help in bathroom breaks.

For some it is to make their photos vibrant and fun. Even though it is the day for the couple, some couples love to make it the biggest celebration of their life. Their main motive behind having a big retinue could be great fun photos.

For those who'd like to have an intimate function for their wedding day, they can ditch having bridesmaids and grooms men.

A lot of brides to be and grooms to be ask this question from our wedding planning support group. There is a short answer and a long answer for this question.

Short answer is YES.
Whatever you feel like having is good.There are rules

Now here is the long answer.
As much as weddings are personal events, it has a cultural aspect to it too. It is important to know the history behind these customs to determine how they all started and should we continue these practices.
Weddings are being held for a long time now. People have added many customs and practices to weddings with the time.
Some are unique to some cultures and some are shared among different cultures too. In Sri Lanka we have a unique wedding culture, but that doesn't mean what we have here is purely generated by Sri Lankans alone, we definitely have influences of some cultural aspects from other cultures too.
With the colonization, western civilization started to blend with our age old traditions. As an example giving marriage a legal background is a product of this blend too.

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Even though we can't trace a specific origin for this age old tradition, of having a bridal retinue. It is said that having a retinue for the wedding started to address a real world problem in olden times. In some civilizations, some women were considered tokens of the inheritance to the throne. This was due to their ability to birth the royalty or heir to the throne. So people tend to steal brides on their wedding day, to claim ownership of the throne. To avoid the bride being kidnapped these civilizations began to dress few more maidens exactly like the bride and all of them veiled their faces heavily, in-order to stop them getting recognized and getting kidnapped. So this practice evolved to become the modern practice of 'bridesmaids'.
Also in some other civilizations when royal women get married to royal men they did not come alone, they also brought a bunch of other women too. These women often considered handmaidens who was either servants or salves. There is a possibility that this practice evolved into the tradition of bridesmaids too.
Grooms men are associated with similar stories too. Some stories says that grooms men are the rest of the people who would support a tribal leader to steal a maiden that is suitable to be his bride.
With the time, practice of having bridesmaids and grooms men evolved into many other things as well, mostly people tend to believe having similarly dressed men and women would confuse evil spirits and protect the couple from evil eyes and ill wishers.
In victorian era it was a symbol of showing off, family strength, wealth and power. Also their official wedding color was white, which was extremely costly to have. Having a large retinue dressed in white only showed off the family wealth.

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Today, it is merely a trend to follow. Obviously now we don't hear any stories about brides being kidnapped.

Some people have friends and family who would love to be a part of the wedding planning. They might even help the couple to get things done, in cases like these people tend to give them those friends and family the tile of the 'bridesmaid' / 'maid of honor' / 'best man' to honor their help.

Some other people tend to have a retinue with them on their big day to make things easier for them, as an example the bridesmaids would help the bride to carry the veil, to retouch make up and even to help in bathroom breaks.

For some it is to make their photos vibrant and fun. Even though it is the day for the couple, some couples love to make it the biggest celebration of their life. Their main motive behind having a big retinue could be great fun photos.

For those who'd like to have an intimate function for their wedding day, they can ditch having bridesmaids and grooms men.

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Now after knowing why bridesmaids exists you can decide yourself whether to have them or not according your requirements.
Let's meet again with a comparison of pros and cons about having a retinue. Stay tuned.
Did you have a large retinue? What is your experience? Let us know in the comments

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